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It’s okay to not get the massage.

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Self care. Self care. Self care.

While reserving space and time to care for ourselves in a chaotic, pressurized world is essential, the concept of “self care” has also become idealized and even exploited in recent years. Certain forms of self care (ex. “spa days”, exercise, etc.) have been pedestalized in mainstream media, which narrows the vision of self care considerably and reduces accessibility and inclusiveness for, well…the majority of people.

There are many reasons why people may avoid caring for themselves, and we believe that feeling pressure to create a luxurious experience for oneself every time we engage in self care only adds to the mix. The purpose of this post is to let you know that it is perfectly alright to choose boring, less “shiny” forms of self care when they meet your needs more efficiently and that it is important to pay attention to what those needs actually are in the first place.

“But I have no clue what I need!”

We hear you – totally and completely.

Start here:

Taking a moment to consider how you are feeling can help you choose self care activities that will be most appropriate for bringing you back to a more balanced place. We know, we know, getting in touch with feelings is everyone’s faaavorite activity (haha, not), but doing so can tell us more about what we are truly needing.

Below are a few examples of how to tie it all together!

Example 1:

Feeling/affect: Bored, isolated, lonely

Potential need: Connection

Possible self care activities: Reach out to a friend or support person, engage with recovery-positive social media, try a group movement class, etc.

Example 2:

Feeling/affect:  Overwhelmed, over-extended, “burnt out”

Potential need: Rest

Possible self care activities: Rest (nap, go to bed early, sleep in), massage or spa treatment, cancel plans, etc.

Example 3:

Feeling/affect: Anxious, restless, unsettled

Potential need: Calm, comfort

Possible self care activities: Guided meditation, grounding/breathing technique, nature walk, etc.

For more self-care inspiration, check out the link below about “boring self care” and one of our favorite Instagram profiles: @makedaisychains 

‘Boring Self-Care’ Drawings Celebrate Everyday Mental Health Victories

*Disclaimer* Choose what feels right to you. These suggestions are in no way absolute and are not meant to replace your current self care regimen, only to enhance your mindfulness around it. You don’t have to fit any mold ever, and we want you to choose self care activities that help you feel like your best self, no matter how trendy, luxurious, involved, simple, or boring they are or are not.

 

 

 

 

 

How To Look After Your Mental Health Whilst Travelling

Written by nutritiousthoughtsblog on . Posted in Eating Disorder Recovery, Self Care.

Ahhhh, summer-time: the season of beach weekends, family vacations, trips, and travel.  This time of the year can be a whirlwind of fun and adventure, but let’s get real – it can also be extremely stressful and challenging for recovery.

How can we take recovery on vacation with us?  How do we maintain the efforts necessary to stay stable and safe without compromising enjoyment and spontaneity?

Check out this post from Moods, Meds, and Meals, a mental health and lifestyle blog, on how to care for yourself and still enjoy the summer (or any season, really) of fun around you.

Sharing the Love

Written by nutritiousthoughtsblog on . Posted in Body Image, Eating Disorder Recovery, Self Care, Uncategorized.

This month’s post pays homage to some of our most favorite blogs.  We at Nutritious Thoughts are showing appreciation, sending shout-outs, and sharing the LOVE with some stellar platforms that are recovery-positive and rooted in joyful living.

Favorite #1: Dances With Fat

Writer Ragen Chastain (she also identifies as many other incredible things – seriously check her out!) is REAL. We love this blog for the relatable content, post consistency (new reads monthly – yay!), and conversational spark in her writing.

Some common themes in this blog include: Health At Every Size (HAES), weight neutrality, size diversity, ditching diet culture, and lots of other awesomeness!

Click here to visit Dances With Fat

Favorite #2: Julie Duffy Dillon 

We love her blog, yes, but really just everything about this wonderful human is worth getting to know.  Julie is a nutrition therapist and eating disorder specialist that is passionate about helping others find peace with food, movement, and their bodies.  

Some common themes in this blog include: Eating Disorder & disordered eating recovery, PCOS, body image, mindful and intuitive eating, and lots of other awesomeness!

Click here to visit Julie’s blog

Favorite #3: Iris Cullinan

Perspective. That’s what we love about this blog. Iris is a Intuitive Career and Business Coach in Asheville, NC (Hey, neighbor!) and is a recovery advocate. Her vision is extraordinary, and her writing embodies elements of the recovery experience like no other.  

Some common themes in this blog include: self-care, motivation, mindfulness, life changes and transformation, and lots of other awesomeness! 

Click here to visit Iris’s blog

Happy reading, everyone!

 

 

 

 

The Jeans Don’t Fit

Written by nutritiousthoughtsblog on . Posted in Body Image, Eating Disorder Recovery. 1 Comment on The Jeans Don’t Fit

Body image is defined by The National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) in the following terms:

Body image is how you see yourself when you look in the mirror or when you picture yourself in your mind. It encompasses:

  • What you believe about your own appearance (including your memories, assumptions, and generalizations).
  • How you feel about your body, including your height, shape, and weight.
  • How you sense and control your body as you move.  How you physically experience or feel in your body.

The intention of this post is to explore the emotional intensity surrounding negative body image moments in all stages of recovery and to better understand and practice the concept of body image flexibility.  

“Oh no, I can’t button these jeans.”

Discomfort.

“Last season these fit me…”

Disappointment.

“Has my body really changed that much?”

Disbelief.

As I flung myself down onto my bed, feeling exasperated and eyes welling up with tears, I began to feel the intense sting of fear.  Fear of “not fitting”.  Fear of how my appearance is perceived by others.  Fear that I still very much care about any of this.  Fear that I will always care about this. 

As I cocooned myself in blankets, I began to ruminate about the time when those jeans did fit and in doing so, I experienced a monumental shift in thinking that made me realize those endless hours of therapy weren’t for naught.  Since the jeans last fit, I recognized positive changes that expanded across every realm of my life.

I’ve experienced less fatigue, pain, and illness since the jeans fit.

I’ve regained mental clarity, focus, and short-term memory since the jeans fit.

I’ve enjoyed being with friends and I’ve laughed a whole lot since the jeans fit.

It was in this moment of reflecting on positive change that I realized that yes, my entire being – my soul, my life – is in fact

Bigger

More

Larger

than any pair of pants ever could be.

As human beings with human bodies, we generally experience periods of physical, mental, and emotional discomfort throughout our lives that may impact our body image.   The concept of body image flexibility honors this discomfort and refers to the ability to fully and openly experience negative thoughts and feelings about body image while still being able to recognize self worth, hold space for self compassion, and maintain value-consistent behaviors (Sandoz, Wilson, & Merwin, 2012).

What does this mean?

Having body image flexibility means that while you may be displeased with your appearance at a given time, you are still able to care for yourself appropriately (eat consistently and enough, be gentle with your body, maintain hygiene, interact socially, etc.).

How do I practice having more body image flexibility?

  • “Yes, and…” mentality – As negative body image thoughts enter consciousness, meet them with acceptance.  This is how you feel right now in this moment.  That is okay.  Then, follow this up by stating one positive attribute about yourself.  This is all about resilience.
    • Example:
      • Negative body image thought: “My thighs are huge.”
      • Internal acceptance dialogue: “Yes, I feel that my thighs are huge in this moment.  I am uncomfortable.”
      • Positive attribute: “My thighs allow me to stand/walk for each of my 8-hour shifts at work.”
  • Get rid of items that promote negative body image or self-judgement – scales, clothing that no longer fits, etc.
  • Consider exploring body image work on a deeper level with a licensed therapist.
  • Self care, self care, self care, self care.
    • Eat. Move gently and intuitively. Sleep. Play.

 

For more information and resources related to body image:

  • https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/body-image-0
  • https://centerforchange.com/battling-bodies-understanding-overcoming-negative-body-images/
  • https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/body-image

 

Empower. Nourish. Heal.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Spring Forward – The Movement towards more Recovery Positive Media

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Spring time –

A season hallmarked by growth, renewal, and according to popular point of view…getting “bikini ready”.  This time of year, many media outlets flood the public with messages promoting appearance-focused methods of “self-improvement”.  You know the type!  Daily interaction with the world around us may not completely eliminate exposure to suggestions such as “eat this” or “shave that” or “exercise like they do”; however, we do have some autonomy related to the media we choose to pay our attention to.

How do we make the shift to engaging in more recovery-positive media when intrusive messages seem to be everywhere?

Step One:

Notice what you are reading, scrolling through, purchasing, and watching.  What messages are you receiving from these sources?  Could they be negatively impacting your self image?  Do you find yourself playing the game of comparison?

Unfollow the account.  Unsubscribe to the magazine.  Change the channel.  Donate the book.  Block them on Facebook.

Step Two: 

Try curating uplifting sources of media that don’t pressure an “ideal”.  We’ve gathered some of our favorites for you to check out (see below!).

Books/Authors:

  • Meera Lee Patel – “My Friend Fear: Finding Magic in the Unknown”
  • Gretchen Rubin – “The Happiness Project”
  • Jen Sincero – “You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life”
  • Brené Brown – “The Gifts of Imperfection”

Instagram Accounts:

  • bymariandrew (Mari Andrew)
  • thebodyisnotanapology (The Body is Not an Apology)
  • thinkgrowprosper (A Wealth of Wisdom)
  • hellosunshine (Hello Sunshine)

Magazines:

  • Darling
  • Lucia

Podcasts:

  • Love, Food – by Julie Duffy Dillon
  • Body Kindness – by Rebecca Scritchfield

Step Three:

Enjoy connecting with the world around you without feeling inadequate in any way, shape, or form.

Boom!

*cue the fireworks*

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Me

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I wrote this letter to myself at a painfully pivotal point in my life.  I still read it regularly and hope it provides a sense of safety, hope, and unity to others that may need it.

-Lindsey M. Yemc, MS, RD, LDN

This is a letter to yourself when things seem impossible.  Read this when success is blooming everywhere around you, and you feel as though you’re the seed that never germinated. Read this when you’re waiting for someone to say “it’s your turn”.

Dear me,

Let your tears fall, and with them, every misconceived notion that you’re not enough.  Breathe.  Open up your heart to every uncertainty in your life, every unknown, every question.  Feel uncomfortable.  The answer right now is that you just don’t know.  Accept yourself in this state.  As inglorious as it is, it is real, and being real in a terribly fake world is an achievement unfamiliar to most.

Sit here for a moment.  Do not write yourself off.  Settle in.  Disrobe your pride.  You are allowed to feel that life is sometimes unfair and unnecessarily cruel, because it absolutely is.  Understand that you are human; perhaps the most difficult thing to be in this universe.

Credit yourself.  You alone have accomplished many feats.  You have fought giants and monsters.  You feel empty with dreamy optimism, but warrior, you are full of everything you need to fight.  Freshen up your war paint, another battle is just around the corner.  You are essential personnel – rain or shine, you must trust yourself to show up.

Embrace your complexity.  You are a goddess, a serpent of solidity.  Flexible, yet unshakable. You are elemental.  The wind in your hair ignites a flame that can burn every one of your insecurities to the ground.  Know your power.

Once you’ve rediscovered the dynamic potential of your life, your incredible aptitude to design and actualize exquisite beauty, propel yourself in the dance of determination.

Love always,

Me